guilt – Don Boys https://donboys.cstnews.com Common Sense for Today Sun, 05 Mar 2023 04:46:50 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.6.29 Raunchy Event at Rock Concert:  Whatever Happened to Shame? https://donboys.cstnews.com/raunchy-event-at-rock-concert-whatever-happened-to-shame https://donboys.cstnews.com/raunchy-event-at-rock-concert-whatever-happened-to-shame#respond Wed, 17 Nov 2021 02:16:04 +0000 http://donboys.cstnews.com/?p=2968  

Well, I’ve lived a long life, traveled the world, was caught in the middle of a PLO funeral procession in Beirut, had two White House briefings, appeared four times on the Jerry Springer Show before it became a circus, had a hit piece done on me by a national news magazine, but I’ve had my most shocking incident in my long life:  A female rock star (someone who yells with loud background  noise) in the presence of thousands of people (who have too much time on their hands), urinated into a man’s mouth.

That shows she was not the only nut or slut on the stage.

The lead singer for the eight-member band told the crowd, “I gotta pee” during the group’s set at the “Welcome to Rockville” music festival in Daytona Beach, Florida. In the middle of a number, she said, “I can’t make it to the bathroom. So, we might as well make a show out of it.” Proving that people will do anything to get attention, the “singer” called a middle-aged man to the stage, telling the audience what she would do. She told the man to lie flat on the stage while she dropped her pants, she urinated into his mouth, all while continuing to sing.

The Jewish prophet Jeremiah covered such things when he wrote in Jeremiah 6:15, “Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? nay, they were not at all ashamed, neither could they blush: therefore, they shall fall among them that fall: at the time that I visit them they shall be cast down, saith the LORD.”

The prophet’s charge was a disparaging accusation; however, today, it is considered audacious, judgmental, and self-righteous to take such a stand. After all, to each his own.

There is plenty of shame to go around, but no one is blushing, an almost passé human reaction to offensive behavior. The exhibitionist rock singer knew she would get the much-desired attention for such outrageous actions. The poor slob who was so insecure, imbecilic, if not insane to permit such a dangerous, defiling, dishonorable act is to be pitied. After being sprayed for a few seconds, he did spit out some of the urine.

I wonder what his wife, girlfriend, mother, and sisters thought about his stupid cooperation in promoting an immoral stunt.

The band apologized, saying it wasn’t planned. Yeah, like the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade isn’t planned. So, now everyone knows of the band. The only band I know about is the Boys Marching Band in River City (that was supposed to keep the youngsters out of the pool hall).

The Florida crowd was disgusted, but does anyone really believe they will refuse to attend such a low-life event again? Only one person reported the incident to the police, but that person refused to follow up on it.

Evidently, the low-life singer will not be prosecuted for lewd behavior, and of course, her male participant can’t be prosecuted since stupidity is not a crime.

A few people were shocked, surprised, but few were shamed. It seems Americans have forgotten how to be ashamed. They don’t seem to understand that the inability to blush resulted in an ancient nation’s captivity for 70 years. The blush is especially revealing since it is an involuntary and uncontrollable response to embarrassment. A blush is totally normal.

Not many normal people around today.

Israel was on the cusp of being defeated and taken into Babylon Captivity for 70 years because they no longer delighted in the Word and rejected godly commandments, even thinking of them as a reproach. The nation—from the people to the priest to the prophets—dealt falsely, and everyone was “given to covetousness.” Having rejected biblical principles, “everyone deals falsely.” Even corrupt prophets preached “peace” when destruction was coming. Finally, the nation refused to admit their sin; therefore, not admitting their sin, they were not ashamed.

Why be ashamed? They had done nothing wrong!

Most of us have done something that caused our conscience to bother us, often resulting in a feeling of shame. Our action conflicted with our personal convictions, family, tradition, church teaching, and common-sense living. Experiencing shame indicates the person is not without hope.

Ordinary people blush when confronted with vile speech, immodest dress, off-colored stories, lewd acts, etc. The blush expresses a feeling that such activities are abnormal, abhorrent, and not acceptable. The unconscious blush says we are silently expressing our feelings that these acts are to be rejected by decent people.

However, in our day, anything is accepted. There is no right or wrong. There is your truth, their truth, and my truth instead of truth. So, when one blushes, he is considered naïve, old-fashioned, even quaint.

Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed, but they recognized their nakedness when they disobeyed the one command and were ashamed. Shame is closely associated with guilt. When we do wrong, we feel guilty. We often feel guilty because we are guilty. Shame is given by God to keep us from making fools of ourselves and doing irreparable harm to self, family, church, or nation.

Bill Clinton has always been an example of a male slut who disgraced himself, his family, his party, his church (from which he should have been expelled), and his nation with ongoing sleazy actions. Not only could he not blush, but he also looked the world in the face and lied—without shame. And yes, Donald Trump had similar problems.

As do many pastors, priests, politicians, performers, professors, and the press.

We hear people boasting of sexual prowess, hear advertisements for sexual objects, observe excessive repulsive sexual behavior by entertainers and athletes, all indications of a rotting society. Modern man accepts almost any activity except for child molestation, and there are examples of that being accepted. We are told not to make a judgment since nothing is really right or wrong. It just is. So, nothing is obscene, and anything goes.

Vile actions, vulgar talk, and violent movies are popular because the public approves of them. Shock art, repulsive trash to normal people, is highly valued. It seems many artists major on trash, and no one is supposed to say, “That is ugly, or a vile piece of trash, but within an impressive frame.”

Especially not to the President’s son.

Females dress like sluts and streetwalkers, and church members often show up in church in similar attire. We are told shame indicates an emotional problem, and repression is bad and causes hang-ups. Radicals tell us not to repress desires; after all, you are free. Don’t give up your liberty; do your own thing. Be your own self, whatever the cost. If others are offended, too bad.

I suppose I’m supposed to be ashamed of being ashamed. Being ashamed leads to feeling inadequate. Shame causes feelings of disgrace, dishonor, and disapproval. A person who feels shame wants to hide from everyone. Personal guilt involves self-condemnation for a wrong said or done, followed by confession and repentance.

Considering the wickedness in America, we will be wise to say with Ezra, “O my God, I am ashamed and blush to lift up my face to thee, my God: for our iniquities are increased over our head, and our trespass is grown up unto the heavens.”

Along with the loss of shame is the ability to blush has disappeared. After all, if nothing is wrong, then a blush is as unnecessary as a buggy whip in a Rolls Royce.

It appears America has begun to crumble since termites have been eating at its foundations for hundreds of years. The rot was clearly visible at the rock concert.

(Dr. Don Boys is a former member of the Indiana House of Representatives who ran a large Christian school in Indianapolis and wrote columns for USA Today for 8 years. Boys authored 20 books, the most recent,  Reflections of a Lifetime Fundamentalist: No Reserves, No Retreats, No Regrets! The eBook is available at Amazon.com for $4.99. Other titles at www.cstnews.com. Follow him on Facebook at Don  Boys, Ph.D., and visit his blogSend a request to DBoysphd@aol.com for a free subscription to his articles and click here to support  his work with a donation.)

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I’m White and Have No Guilt, No Hatred, and No Apologies! https://donboys.cstnews.com/im-white-and-have-no-guilt-no-hatred-and-no-apologies https://donboys.cstnews.com/im-white-and-have-no-guilt-no-hatred-and-no-apologies#respond Fri, 16 Jul 2021 16:09:41 +0000 http://donboys.cstnews.com/?p=2881 I am weary and wary but not wrong over false accusations, even silly charges against Whites, a group to which I belong through no fault of my own. It’s time to call out the racists—Blacks and Whites— who hide their self-hate, anger, inferiority, or bigotry behind the fig leaf of contemptible accusations of white people. It seems Whites are responsible for everything including, but not limited to, sunspots, dandruff, arthritis, and sandstorms in Saudi Arabia.

We are told, in essence, that Whites are born with a bulls-eye on the back of their heads because they are white.

Let me remind my readers that most of the good things we enjoy in the free world were accomplished by “dead white men.” No, not all things, but most things were accomplished by white men, not non-whites or non-men. It is not politically correct to assert such, but only a fool, fanatic, or falsifier denies it. Others will agree it is true but don’t want it spoken because the truth offends some people.

Too bad. Welcome to the real world. Being offended won’t kill anyone, and they will get over it sooner or later. If not, such is life. And I’m tired of minorities who constantly ridicule white people to make themselves feel superior. They have invented a false history of self-aggrandizement in which they celebrate, although during occasional seizures of honesty they know it is all make-believe.

But they feel better.

For schools to teach that to be white is a curse, a shame, and something to overcome is outrageous, odious, and offensive. Every person with any connection to such a farce should be fired and forever forbidden from the classroom at all levels. Any preacher who is so stupid to teach it should be tarred and feathered and run out of town on a rail. Any media person who stoops so low in promoting such absurdities should be forever doomed to do the weather in a remote station in the Aleutian Islands. Additionally, they should be forced to perform with a Jeffrey Toobin Award hanging from their neck.

Facts are inflexible and honest people accept them even if they are embarrassing. There are good and bad people of all races in all strata of society. Moreover, everyone should make whatever changes necessary to leave this world better because he was here. I believe the most immediate and permanent change is genuine Christian conversion that impacts every area of life. Others will refuse that approach and try everything from Atheism to Zoroastrianism.

Each American has a right to be wrong.

Other fanatics campaign for an amalgamated society with no variance except a slight difference in the hue— not black, red, or yellow and not white for sure. That sounds so cosmopolitan, multi-cultural, progressive, unnecessary, gratuitous, and so self-hating. If God permitted each of us to be born as we are, is it wise to tamper with that arrangement? What is wrong with keeping the status quo? What’s wrong with having the original plan of various hues?

After all, there is a black continent made up of 52 nations, and no one is suggesting they become whiter or less black. We have many Asian countries basically made up of yellow-skinned folk, and no one is suggesting they be mongrelized.  So, why not keep America basically, as it is with all the various hues and colors? Why must Whites be assimilated? No one can prove any such achievement would be advantageous to society.

Let’s keep it the way it is through voluntary choices: Whites, 75%; Blacks, 12%; Hispanic, 11%; American Indian, 10% and Asian, 3.6%. If a Black chooses to marry a white person, then go to it but don’t try to force us through governmental action or even social intimidation to ridicule, repudiate, and reject Whites to arrive at a very dubious social experiment.

Most of us would say it is permissible if a Black wants to marry a white person liking all that goes with such a union. So, why is it wrong if a White decides to only marry another white person, or a Black decides to only marry another Black person, wanting what goes with that—the heritage, the color, the family connections, preservation of a group, etc.?

In recent years, in collaboration with the feds, environmental zealots went to contemptible extremes to preserve the spotted owl, snail darter, and the yellow belly sapsucker, so why not keep America as the land of the free and the home of the brave? Why is it admirable for American Indians, Hispanics, Blacks, Arabs, and others to loudly proclaim their ethnicity, but when a white, English-speaking person does so, everyone treats him like a bigot? This is a subject no one wants to handle. It’s like an elephant sitting in a formal living room that no one admits is there! While I don’t want to be identified with white supremacists, I think it is proper and desirable to keep the white heritage and culture alive.

It is appalling that white people have apologized for being white. Is it prima fascia evidence that we hate people if we think being white is just as good as black, brown, etc.? There are far more nations populated by people of color than white nations. Why not have a majority white nation here and there around the globe?

Hispanics, Blacks, American Indians, etc., should be proud of their nationality and race; after all, God made them that way. So would you mind if I believe the same thing about being white and English speaking? And why make America into another Spanish-speaking nation? Are there not enough of them south of the U.S.?

New immigrants to the U.S. should learn to speak English. That is the least they can do. Teddy Roosevelt suggested that any immigrant who did not learn English within five years of his arrival should be shipped back home! Tally Ho, Teddy!

My grandchildren have a right to live in a nation similar to what I knew, so I don’t want them to see our culture changed to that of the seventh-century Arabian Desert or a Third World African nation. It is not unreasonable to expect America to reflect the America where I grew up.

Yes, I believe America is superior to all other nations, even with some nut jobs running around declaring otherwise.

It can’t happen, but I would like a return to the relative innocence of the 1950s when we once again believe that there is a difference between right and wrong, and we have a moral responsibility to choose the right. We can discriminate because we will make value judgments about cars, music, television shows, politics, and even religion.

With the massive increase in legal and illegal immigration, we are going to lose our national identity. Some think that is good. I’m not one of them. People from Europe immigrating to the U.S. are much easier to assimilate than most Latin American, African, and Middle Eastern nations. Only fools say all immigrants are equal. My critics will say that is evident proof of bigotry and hatred, but it is a statement of fact. And anyone’s refusal to recognize such truths clearly indicates closed-mindedness or prejudice.

When many immigrants come to America and hold loyalty to former homelands, it erodes our society. Dual loyalty weakens our strength, stability, and security. If we have to assimilate a million new Americans here, do you think it would be easier to assimilate a million British or a million Haitians? I don’t want any new immigrants for a few years.

The proponents of the salad bowl theory tell us that one culture or religion is just as good as another. My critics tell us a 300-member Stone Age culture with all its barbarism, brutality, and backwardness is just as viable, valuable, and virtuous as our modern, urbane, sophisticated society with elevators, airplanes, automobiles, hospitals, MRI machines, computers, etc. Likewise, the voodoo cultures practicing witchcraft, shamanism, demonism, pantheism, etc., are acceptable and on par with Christianity. I don’t believe that either.

Neither do you.

I believe that some immigration is acceptable, although I would stop it for five years, and people who want to blend with our culture should have priority. Most Americans want a cultural and national melting pot, not a salad bowl. If we continue with unrestricted immigration, legal and illegal, this melting pot will become a chamber pot. (If you don’t know, search it.)

There should be rules, restrictions, and requirements for immigrants. While restricting immigration, we should elevate our entrance requirements whereby all immigrants must sing in English all the verses of “America, the Beautiful” and whistle the National Anthem simultaneously–with a mouthful of saltine crackers! Well, maybe not quite that extreme, but almost!

Immigrants who demand we be sensitive to their feelings when they don’t give a flip about ours are wearisome. We have our own language, lifestyle, culture, music (such as it is), and I am weary of foreigners who enjoy all the many benefits of our nation and are not sensitive to our feelings. America opened her collective arms and invited anyone and everyone to her shores with no questions asked and no obligations required, all in the name of multiculturalism and non-discrimination. We have been fools and are watching American culture being denounced, denigrated, and destroyed in front of our eyes. That must stop!

We are often told that new immigrants are offended when we sing patriotic songs, fly the American flag, and pray to Christ. Too bad, no one gets through life being unoffended. This is a big world, so they can move someplace else. I’ve seen plenty of empty space on the Arabian Desert!

I was born white and will probably stay that way until I die. What hue or color I then become, I don’t care. While I am embarrassed by some white Americans, I am generally proud of whites’ accomplishments. I will treat all people with respect until their actions prove them to be jerks, crooks, liars, incompetents, charlatans, frauds, quacks, or Progressives.

Moreover, I am not ashamed of being white and have no reason to apologize. That won’t happen if there is a Great Freeze in a place the Bible speaks about or if all the shrimp in Louisiana learn to whistle Dixie in harmony.

No guilt, no hatred, no fear, no apology.

(Dr. Don Boys is a former member of the Indiana House of Representatives who ran a large Christian school in Indianapolis and wrote columns for USA Today for 8 years. Boys authored 18 books, the most recent being Muslim Invasion: The Fuse is Burning!  The eBook is available here with the printed edition (and other titles) at www.cstnews.com. Follow him on Facebook at Don  Boys, Ph.D., and visit his blogSend a request to DBoysphd@aol.com for a free subscription to his articles, and click here to support  his work with a donation.)

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