obscene – Don Boys https://donboys.cstnews.com Common Sense for Today Sun, 05 Mar 2023 04:46:50 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.6.29 Raunchy Event at Rock Concert:  Whatever Happened to Shame? https://donboys.cstnews.com/raunchy-event-at-rock-concert-whatever-happened-to-shame https://donboys.cstnews.com/raunchy-event-at-rock-concert-whatever-happened-to-shame#respond Wed, 17 Nov 2021 02:16:04 +0000 http://donboys.cstnews.com/?p=2968  

Well, I’ve lived a long life, traveled the world, was caught in the middle of a PLO funeral procession in Beirut, had two White House briefings, appeared four times on the Jerry Springer Show before it became a circus, had a hit piece done on me by a national news magazine, but I’ve had my most shocking incident in my long life:  A female rock star (someone who yells with loud background  noise) in the presence of thousands of people (who have too much time on their hands), urinated into a man’s mouth.

That shows she was not the only nut or slut on the stage.

The lead singer for the eight-member band told the crowd, “I gotta pee” during the group’s set at the “Welcome to Rockville” music festival in Daytona Beach, Florida. In the middle of a number, she said, “I can’t make it to the bathroom. So, we might as well make a show out of it.” Proving that people will do anything to get attention, the “singer” called a middle-aged man to the stage, telling the audience what she would do. She told the man to lie flat on the stage while she dropped her pants, she urinated into his mouth, all while continuing to sing.

The Jewish prophet Jeremiah covered such things when he wrote in Jeremiah 6:15, “Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? nay, they were not at all ashamed, neither could they blush: therefore, they shall fall among them that fall: at the time that I visit them they shall be cast down, saith the LORD.”

The prophet’s charge was a disparaging accusation; however, today, it is considered audacious, judgmental, and self-righteous to take such a stand. After all, to each his own.

There is plenty of shame to go around, but no one is blushing, an almost passé human reaction to offensive behavior. The exhibitionist rock singer knew she would get the much-desired attention for such outrageous actions. The poor slob who was so insecure, imbecilic, if not insane to permit such a dangerous, defiling, dishonorable act is to be pitied. After being sprayed for a few seconds, he did spit out some of the urine.

I wonder what his wife, girlfriend, mother, and sisters thought about his stupid cooperation in promoting an immoral stunt.

The band apologized, saying it wasn’t planned. Yeah, like the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade isn’t planned. So, now everyone knows of the band. The only band I know about is the Boys Marching Band in River City (that was supposed to keep the youngsters out of the pool hall).

The Florida crowd was disgusted, but does anyone really believe they will refuse to attend such a low-life event again? Only one person reported the incident to the police, but that person refused to follow up on it.

Evidently, the low-life singer will not be prosecuted for lewd behavior, and of course, her male participant can’t be prosecuted since stupidity is not a crime.

A few people were shocked, surprised, but few were shamed. It seems Americans have forgotten how to be ashamed. They don’t seem to understand that the inability to blush resulted in an ancient nation’s captivity for 70 years. The blush is especially revealing since it is an involuntary and uncontrollable response to embarrassment. A blush is totally normal.

Not many normal people around today.

Israel was on the cusp of being defeated and taken into Babylon Captivity for 70 years because they no longer delighted in the Word and rejected godly commandments, even thinking of them as a reproach. The nation—from the people to the priest to the prophets—dealt falsely, and everyone was “given to covetousness.” Having rejected biblical principles, “everyone deals falsely.” Even corrupt prophets preached “peace” when destruction was coming. Finally, the nation refused to admit their sin; therefore, not admitting their sin, they were not ashamed.

Why be ashamed? They had done nothing wrong!

Most of us have done something that caused our conscience to bother us, often resulting in a feeling of shame. Our action conflicted with our personal convictions, family, tradition, church teaching, and common-sense living. Experiencing shame indicates the person is not without hope.

Ordinary people blush when confronted with vile speech, immodest dress, off-colored stories, lewd acts, etc. The blush expresses a feeling that such activities are abnormal, abhorrent, and not acceptable. The unconscious blush says we are silently expressing our feelings that these acts are to be rejected by decent people.

However, in our day, anything is accepted. There is no right or wrong. There is your truth, their truth, and my truth instead of truth. So, when one blushes, he is considered naïve, old-fashioned, even quaint.

Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed, but they recognized their nakedness when they disobeyed the one command and were ashamed. Shame is closely associated with guilt. When we do wrong, we feel guilty. We often feel guilty because we are guilty. Shame is given by God to keep us from making fools of ourselves and doing irreparable harm to self, family, church, or nation.

Bill Clinton has always been an example of a male slut who disgraced himself, his family, his party, his church (from which he should have been expelled), and his nation with ongoing sleazy actions. Not only could he not blush, but he also looked the world in the face and lied—without shame. And yes, Donald Trump had similar problems.

As do many pastors, priests, politicians, performers, professors, and the press.

We hear people boasting of sexual prowess, hear advertisements for sexual objects, observe excessive repulsive sexual behavior by entertainers and athletes, all indications of a rotting society. Modern man accepts almost any activity except for child molestation, and there are examples of that being accepted. We are told not to make a judgment since nothing is really right or wrong. It just is. So, nothing is obscene, and anything goes.

Vile actions, vulgar talk, and violent movies are popular because the public approves of them. Shock art, repulsive trash to normal people, is highly valued. It seems many artists major on trash, and no one is supposed to say, “That is ugly, or a vile piece of trash, but within an impressive frame.”

Especially not to the President’s son.

Females dress like sluts and streetwalkers, and church members often show up in church in similar attire. We are told shame indicates an emotional problem, and repression is bad and causes hang-ups. Radicals tell us not to repress desires; after all, you are free. Don’t give up your liberty; do your own thing. Be your own self, whatever the cost. If others are offended, too bad.

I suppose I’m supposed to be ashamed of being ashamed. Being ashamed leads to feeling inadequate. Shame causes feelings of disgrace, dishonor, and disapproval. A person who feels shame wants to hide from everyone. Personal guilt involves self-condemnation for a wrong said or done, followed by confession and repentance.

Considering the wickedness in America, we will be wise to say with Ezra, “O my God, I am ashamed and blush to lift up my face to thee, my God: for our iniquities are increased over our head, and our trespass is grown up unto the heavens.”

Along with the loss of shame is the ability to blush has disappeared. After all, if nothing is wrong, then a blush is as unnecessary as a buggy whip in a Rolls Royce.

It appears America has begun to crumble since termites have been eating at its foundations for hundreds of years. The rot was clearly visible at the rock concert.

(Dr. Don Boys is a former member of the Indiana House of Representatives who ran a large Christian school in Indianapolis and wrote columns for USA Today for 8 years. Boys authored 20 books, the most recent,  Reflections of a Lifetime Fundamentalist: No Reserves, No Retreats, No Regrets! The eBook is available at Amazon.com for $4.99. Other titles at www.cstnews.com. Follow him on Facebook at Don  Boys, Ph.D., and visit his blogSend a request to DBoysphd@aol.com for a free subscription to his articles and click here to support  his work with a donation.)

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Is Slut a Forbidden Word? https://donboys.cstnews.com/is-slut-a-forbidden-word https://donboys.cstnews.com/is-slut-a-forbidden-word#respond Tue, 05 Apr 2016 16:14:05 +0000 http://donboys.cstnews.com/?p=1408 This week I had a response from one of the conservative websites that publishes my columns. They were offended by the use of the word slut declaring “The use of the ‘s’ word makes me not want to go any further.” The editor continued, “You may not know it, but that is considered an extremely unacceptable word of profanity in our culture, and we would never read any book or text that contains it.” Methinks the editor doth protest too much. I may be out of touch with the culture but surely not that much.

The Bible word whore or prostitute are unpleasant words but they describe reality. Moreover, it is interesting that people are more offended at me using the “s” word than those who take off their clothes for the camera! I know some screaming females do not like the word but then many of them are the reason the word is used!

I would never complain about someone’s standards being too high! Since I became a Christian as a teen, I have never used obscene language. I try, but not always successfully, to not use words such as heck, darn, golly, etc., since they are substitute oaths. Words like crap, fart, screw, etc., have never been part of my vocabulary–never. And my wife and four grown children can attest to that. I used them here for the first time! In fact, I have never heard my children speak that way and would be shocked if they did. So, I have always taken the position that I’d rather be charged with prudery than profanity.

I thought that the editor may be right about the present-day use of slut because I am out of touch with the culture: movies, music, and television. I have used pussyfooting all my life describing people who refuse to take a stand on difficult issues but my wife told me recently that a portion of the word is now considered obscene–she didn’t tell me which part! I don’t suppose I have to use that word but I resent others controlling my speaking or writing. Of course, editors have every right to set their own standards of material submitted to them.

I’ll get back to slut in a minute but let me digress down a more debatable, divisive, and dangerous trail.

The word nigger is an offensive word but hardly obscene yet almost everyone refuses to use it even in a correct way–except Blacks who seem to have a special privilege–maybe black privilege! Now that is obscene to me. I resent the double standard and the refusal of people to take on the apostles of political correctness. No doubt there are many conservatives who agree with me but don’t think it is worth the battle. After all a dog can whip a skunk but is it worth the fight?

Again, my family has never heard me call anyone a nigger. I refuse to speak that way because it would be offensive to the object of my scorn and to those who hear me speak. However, it is silly for anyone to be offended when I say, “The word nigger is an acceptable word when used the right way.” Or when I say or write “It is immature, illogical, and inane for anyone to get angry when I use nigger in a way that is not projected toward an individual.” Or when I say, “If a Black can use nigger wrongly then I can use the word nigger rightly.” And I demand my critics tell me why not.

Now, I must be practical and thoughtful of others. I was a guest on a national talk show about a year ago and the discussion turned to word usage and political correctness. The host is a dear friend and I have been a guest on his show about forty times! I would never do anything to cause him harm; but I did so without knowing it. We got on the word nigger and I made my pitch for the fact it was illogical to not use the word because many Blacks (who often use the word in a derogatory way) might be offended.

It caused him trouble with his network or sponsors (although he never reproached me for my blunder) and I was very distressed that I was so thoughtless. I got “caught up in the moment” and forgot that others were involved. I am not concerned about money or whether people like and accept me, nor how much coverage my column gets; but others were involved and I should have been thoughtful. I have learned from that mistake. I have been on his show three or four times since that episode. In fact, last week.

With my columns it is a different matter. Each column goes through a “gatekeeper” as to whether or not it will be published. I try to make people think about issues that others usually don’t deal with. I do so from my perspective of a born-again Christian although I never try to force my position on others although I am often accused of that. It is easier to yell and curse me (or anyone) rather than present a cogent reason for disagreement.

Now, as to the word slut. The offended editor told me that it is an “extremely unacceptable word of profanity,” but I disagree. I think the word is considered offensive by sluts of America and my editor has been influenced by them. The dictionaries clearly define it as a disparaging and offensive term meaning “a sexually promiscuous woman, or a woman who behaves or dresses in an overtly sexual way.” A secondary definition is “a person with a seemingly insatiable but often undiscerning desire to do or have something specified: guilty of being a shoe slut; a book slut, reading five books at once.” That was news to me. Furthermore, the archaic definition is “a prostitute; harlot. An immoral or dissolute woman. Or a dirty, slovenly woman.” In the mid-fifteenth century a slut was “a kitchen maid, a drudge.”

Random House suggests “Some feminists have reclaimed the word slut and use it to mean a sexually liberated woman,” making it a very positive word!

I studied English Literature at Marshall University and was severely challenged yet delighted at Chaucer’s use of English for his Canterbury Tales and other works instead of the normal use of French or Latin for literature. He used “sluttish” in reference to the appearance of an untidy man. So, I suppose a man can also be a slut.

So, I will continue to use slut appropriately when applying to people who expose their bodies to any person except their spouses–for whatever reason.

And I won’t be offended toward those who disagree and refuse to publish my column.

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